Validation, Sabotage And Freedom: The Nature And Effect Of Money On Your Life, Your Relationships And The World

Debt can breed unworthiness. Gambling can breed powerlessness. Wealth can breed freedom, guilt, arrogance and far reaching philanthropy. Money in relationships can lead to deeper connection and deeper fulfillment, or to manipulation, violence and even murder. The dichotomy is even more pronounced at the global level where we both deify and demonize the rich and poor alike.

It is a complicated subject that weaves its way into our very identities, into our relationships, and our societies. Whether the nature and effect of money is good or bad is entirely dependent on your personal relationship with it. Over the course of this book, we will be exploring more about the nature and effect of money from all of these perspectives. Throughout these discussions, I will call out important questions for you to answer. I want to help you explore and understand your relationship with money, and evolve that relationship to a place where your money works for you in a positive way, offering freedom, fulfillment, growth, deeper relationships, and greater good.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Validation, Sabotage, and Freedom

Money Baggage

The Nature And Effect Of Money

PART I

THE PERSONAL SIDE OF MONEY

Money Reflects Emotional Value

Money Is An Extension Of Ourselves

Money Reflects How We See Ourselves

Being Debt Free

Financial Contentment

Financial Independence

YOUR Magic Number

The Real You

Showing It Off Versus Hiding It

Large Scale Wealth

The Dangers Of Comparison

More Money, More Problems

Wealth Guilt And Giving It All Away

PART II

MONEY IN RELATIONSHIPS

Anger, Violence and Murder

Manipulation and Extortion

Control and Oppression

Forcing Attachment

Social Spend Pressure

Unpacking The Budget Baggage

Spend Plans Versus Budgets And Thog The Destroyer

The Spendthrift Versus The Free Spirit

Letting Go Of Past Financial Relationship Baggage

Getting On The Same Page

The Courage To Get Weird

The Spend Plan As A Contract

Building Your Relationship As You Build Your Spend Plan

Dreaming And Saving

Your Magic Number For Financial Independence

Financial Fatigue And Falling Off The Wagon

Loosening Up Once You Arrive

Survivability

Your Parents' Money

The Chosen Child

Awkward Conversations With Mom And Dad

Supporting Your Parents Without Going Broke

Unequal Distributions Among Siblings

Your Children And Your Money

The Typical Parent-Child Financial Journey

The Value Of Money

Mom And Dad - The Perpetual ATM

Cutting The Cord

Boomerangs And The Entitled

Planning For The Inevitable

No Relationship Can Be Pure When Money Is Involved

PART III

MONEY IN THE WORLD

Deities And Demons - Other People's Money

Scammers, Con Artists And Thieves

Deifying And Demonizing The Wealthy

Neighborhood Jealousy

Millionaire Incognito

Government Spending

Loans, Grants And Tax Breaks - A Government's Way Of Encouraging Your Behavior

Taxes - A Government's Way Of Discouraging Your Behavior

Money In Motion - Stock Markets & The Collective Mood

Greener Pastures - Geoarbitrage

Feeling Good Versus Doing Good - Charity And Philanthropy

Conclusion