Safe Away

This book is the autobiography of my life in 3 different countries (Malaysia, Jamaica, and Nigeria) on three different continents before returning to Kerala in South India. It focuses more on the arranged marriage to a total stranger who later covers his controlling and abusive behavior under the face of a personality disorder, and later the escape from him after coming to Canada. This book intends to create an awareness of abuse, domestic violence, and its influence on children or others suffering in similar situations.

This book is based on my true-life story after fifteen years of suffering a manipulating, controlling, isolated, gaslighting, aggressive, violent, and abusive married life in India, Muscat, and Canada. I did not understand that I was living in an Abusive relationship, was living in self-denial because of my children, and was afraid to break up the marriage even though I made some futile attempts to do so. Unfortunately, this delay resulted in more harm than I thought it would, not only to myself but to the children as well.

It took more than eleven years later after escaping a sociopathic narcissistic spouse, along with my four sons, to establish a more peaceful and enjoyable life. My happiness of regaining the freedom I lost while in the marriage and the emancipation from mental slavery after coming to Canada gave us the needed support and help. So, it was a blessing in disguise for deciding to go to Canada and finally becoming citizens of which, we are so proud.

"Broken people like ourselves feel easily connected when we hear the stories of other people, which makes us feel stronger inside in knowing that we are not the only ones suffering in silence. We feel uplifted and motivated to do more for others just like us!"

Canada, which has been my home country and helped me to recover from traumas that lingered over the years, has given me hope to go on. I hope this book will inspire and motivate many people going through a controlling and isolated life to get the help and strength to leave the toxic life before it is too late!