Come As You Are: Five Years Later

Five years after the death of his husband, G. Scott Graham thought he had equanimity. He thought he had made peace with his grief. But when a new love entered his life, everything shifted. The grief came back-different this time, disguised as hope, desire, and fear. And with it came a whole new set of questions: Can you open your heart again after unimaginable loss? Can you love fully when you know what love can cost?

Come As You Are: Five Years Later is not a guidebook. It's not a "how-to" on healing. It's a radically honest, soul-baring exploration of what it means to live after grief - and then grieve again when love returns.

Written in a voice that feels more like a conversation than a self-help book, this third installment in the Come As You Are series blends raw reflection, poetic storytelling, and hard-won insight. It's part memoir, part diary, part meditation - and anchored by a practical, no-nonsense appendix for those navigating the messy reality of love after loss.

Inside, you'll find:

• A deeply personal narrative of falling in love again - and falling apart in the process
• Insights into how grief reappears not just through loss, but through connection
• Reflections on Vipassanā meditation, equanimity, and the near enemy of indifference
• Exercises and tools grounded in Buddhist practice - but accessible to anyone in grief
• A powerful reminder that healing isn't linear, and presence is always a choice

Because grief doesn't follow a timeline.
Love doesn't erase loss.
And the heart, if you're willing, keeps breaking open.