Things Boundaries are Allowed to Do for Youth Groups (An Incomplete List)

Things Boundaries Are Allowed to Do for Youth Groups is a clear, practical guide to safeguarding in youth ministry-written for teens, volunteers, youth pastors, and senior leadership to read together.

Rather than focusing on fear, suspicion, or worst-case scenarios, this book focuses on responsibility. Through a series of short, declarative statements, it names what healthy boundaries are allowed to do: interrupt isolation, remove secrecy, clarify roles, limit access, and protect everyone involved.

Each statement is given its own page, deliberately reinforcing slow reading, discussion, and reflection. The format invites conversation while keeping expectations clear and shared across all levels of leadership.

This book addresses:

• how harm most often develops quietly and over time
• why clear policies and visibility matter more than intent
• what grooming commonly looks like in ordinary settings
• what adults are allowed to notice and say out loud
• what children are never responsible for
• what safeguarding realistically costs institutions
• what adults must agree to before working with youth

Designed to complement existing safeguarding policies, this book does not replace reporting procedures or legal guidance. Instead, it provides a shared moral and structural framework that helps prevent harm before it occurs.

Things Boundaries Are Allowed to Do for Youth Groups is not about suspicion.

It is about responsibility.