Nobody Asked... But I Remember spans seven decades of a life lived mostly in silence: a childhood in the remote Canadian north with a schizophrenic father and a mother who survived everything but said nothing; a rape at seventeen that she carried alone for fifty years; a series of jobs, houses, and relationships that taught her the art of adaptation; and a fifty-six year marriage to a man she spent decades trying to provoke into noticing her - before finally understanding that she didn't need to change anything to be loved.Told with sharp wit, honesty, and the clarity of a woman who has finally stopped waiting to be asked, this memoir speaks directly to the millions of women who have experienced trauma, silence, and the particular exhaustion of making themselves smaller so that everyone around them could be more comfortable.
Nobody asked. She remembers anyway. And in the remembering, she finds what she was looking for all along - not answers, but the knowledge that the questions themselves were worth asking.
For every woman who has wondered whether any of it was her fault. It wasn't.Written by the author of Quite an Undertaking, The Story of Violet Guymer, Canada's First Licensed Funeral Director a portion of which was read in the Canadian Senate in 2018 by Senator Mary McCallum. Part of that book describes a brutal injustice against an indigenous girl which Senator McCallum wanted to highlight.
