Is Trauma a Massively Non-Optimal Concept?: Pain from Our Upside-Down Words vs Pain from Events Themselves

The author sees the concept of trauma and the claim of one's being a victim and of "being traumatized" much differently these days, at the age of sixty-four.

He proposes we often "blame" a difficult event, calling it a "trauma", rather than attributing the larger, more massive pain which arises from the WORDS we use to talk ABOUT the event, particularly, words that induce shame, thus creating perhaps ten times more pain, in our minds, than the "trigger" event itself had ever rendered. As one woman has said, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will F*** kill me."

He will soon publish "Our Five Toxic Word-Sets".

This author is largely in favor of many views of Jim Rohn, including those in this video:

"Stop Blaming Others The Speech That Changed Everything - Jim Rohn Motivation"

https: //youtu.be/ZV8EqvNZ6pU?si=wANXgTdKProANpOQ

In his twenties, the author spent 150 sessions in psychoanalysis with two physicians, including one hundred sessions in La Jolla, California six days a week. The analyst was Jewish.

He cites views garnered from an Eastern perspective, too, some as per Jeffrey Masson, a psychoanalyst now living in New Zealand since 2000, who works solely with animals.

The author's mother was born in eastern Poland, nine miles from Ukraine, in a village comprised eighty percent of Jewish citizens, most of whom did not survive when the Soviets arrived at her village in 1939.

"Animals Teach Us: Life, Love and Values, with Jeffrey Masson"

https: //youtu.be/IJz8H4abONk?si=YW70ITH-sSLzUwk_

Now, perhaps consider:

"The Unfinished Life", starring Robert Redford, Morgan Freeman, and Jennifer Lopez:

"I know people everywhere that thought they got dealt a bad hand"

https: //youtu.be/A1NLVAWMEo8?si=yHek5btV5EONbErU

This author visited a Buddhist monastery a number of times and currently attends some monastery meetings online.

He also brings views based on assisting his mother, now 87, who is in a village fifteen miles from himself. She struggled for years with alcohol, later overcoming it; hence his books on AA.

Mentioned are Gabor Mate, MD; Jeffrey Masson, MD; and Prof. Sam Vaknin https: //vaknin-talks.com/