Being easy to be around is costing you the right to be known.
Nell Ashworth spent sixteen years as a deputy head being the person everybody could rely on, and five months signed off finding out what that had cost. This book is not about assertiveness scripts. It is about the hundred small subtractions a day that nobody notices, including you.
The Shrink Log records every one of them: the opinion you softened before saying, the sorry to bother you, the price you dropped, the plan you did not propose because somebody else might not want to. Most readers get to forty entries in the first week and are genuinely shaken by it.
There is a chapter on why the people who benefit are not villains and mostly have no idea, and a chapter on what actually happens when you stop, which is less dramatic and more mixed than anybody promises.
One real sentence, said out loud, to a real person, without over-explaining, inside thirty days.
