Stop Hurting the Woman You Love ─ Breaking the Cycle of Abusive Behavior

A first-ever how-to book to help abusive men change their behavior by changing their thinking.

Domestic abuse is the leading cause of injury to American women between the ages of 15 and 44. Women's shelters, advocacy programs, and counseling centers have been created to respond to victims’ needs, but what can be done to prevent domestic violence in the first place? At last, here is a powerful, positive tool to help abusive men break the cycle of abuse. Stop Hurting the Woman You Love shows men how to identify their distorted thinking—often rooted in feelings of entitlement and male privilege—in order to change the beliefs that fuel their need to control and lead to abusive behavior. Real-life case histories, thought-provoking questionnaires, and a conversational tone engage readers, helping them raise self-awareness and to change beliefs. The book's step-by-step cognitive behavioral approach gives men a proven action plan for putting their new, healthy approach into practice.

Charlie Donaldson is director of the Men's Resource Center in Holland, Michigan. He has specialized in working with men for twelve years and offers batterer intervention, substance abuse counseling, and men's therapy groups. As an adjunct professor in the School of Social Work at Grand Valley State University in Allendale, Michigan. Donaldson specializing in working with male interns focusing on men's issues. He has presented seminars for other therapists on the psychology of men who abuse women, obstacles and approaches to working with men in therapy, risk and lethality issues for batterers, and interventions for angry and assaultive men. Charlie was instrumental in creating the Batterer Intervention Service Coalition of Michigan and the Lakeshore Alliance Against Domestic and Sexual Violence of Ottawa County, Michigan. He is credentialed as a Limited Licensed Psychologist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, a Certified Addictions Counselor I and holds M.A. degrees in English and in Counseling Psychology.