The Big Lie ─ Motherhood, Feminism, and the Reality of the Biological Clock

A candid assessment of the pros and cons of delayed motherhood.

Biology does not bend to feminist ideals and science does not work miracles. That is the message of this eye-opening discussion of the consequences of delayed motherhood. Part personal account, part manifesto, Selvaratnam recounts her emotional journey through multiple miscarriages after the age of 37. Her doctor told her she still "had time," but Selvaratnam found little reliable and often conflicting information about a mature woman's biological ability (or inability) to conceive.

Beyond her personal story, the author speaks to women in similar situations around the country, as well as fertility doctors, adoption counselors, reproductive health professionals, celebrities, feminists, journalists, and sociologists. Through in-depth reporting and her own experience, Selvaratnam urges more widespread education and open discussion about delayed motherhood in the hope that long-lasting solutions can take effect. The result is a book full of valuable information that will enable women to make smarter choices about their reproductive futures and to strike a more realistic balance between science, society and personal goals.

Tanya Selvaratnam (New York, NY) is an independent producer, writer, activist and theater artist. Recent productions include the short film series, Beginnings, which won the Webby Award for best online documentary series; the theatrical show, World of Wires, at The Kitchen in New York, which won an Obie Award for best direction; and ongoing collaborations with artists and directors such as Carrie Mae Weems, Chiara Clemente, Catherine Gund, and Mickalene Thomas. Since 2008, she has been the Communications and Special Projects Officer for the Rubell Family Collection. As an activist, she has worked with the Ms. Foundation for Women, the Third Wave Foundation, the NGO Forum on Women, and the World Health Organization. Learn more at http://tanyaturnsup.com/.