Notes for the Everlost ─ A Field Guide to Grief

Part memoir, part handbook for the heartbroken, this powerful, unsparing account of losing a premature baby will speak to all who have been bereaved and are grieving, and offers inspiration on moving forward, gently integrating the loss into life.

When Kate Inglis's twin boys were born prematurely, one survived and the other did not. This is the powerful, unsparing account of her experience, her bereavement, and ultimately how she was able to move forward and help other parents who had experienced such profound loss. Inglis's story is a springboard that can help other bereaved parents reflect on key aspects of the experience, such as emotional survival in the first year after loss; dealing with family, friends, and bystanders post-loss; the unique female state post-bereavement of shame and sorrow at "failing," or somehow not fulfilling your role; the importance of community; recognizing society's inability to deal with grief and loss; how loss breeds compassion; coping with anniversaries; and beginning the work of "integration" (as opposed to "healing").

KATE INGLIS is an author and photographer living on the South Shore of Nova Scotia. She is the author of numerous YA and children's books, including If I Were a Zombie, Flight of the Griffons, and The Dread Crew, which was nominated for Hackmatack Children's Choice and Red Cedar Awards.
Kate's writing through the birth of her twins, subsequent loss, and beyond was internationally recognized and widely shared. In 2008, she founded Glow in the Woods, a groundbreaking online community for bereaved parents that attracted over five million readers within its first five years. She served as its editor until 2012, and she still writes as a contributor. For six years she headlined the annual Walk to Remember in Edmonton, Alberta, one of the largest and most preeminent memorial events for bereaved parents in Canada. Each year, she delivered a keynote to more than 1,000 parents and family members who had experienced loss. In 2012, she gave a talk at TEDx Halifax called "Parallelism," in which she explored of the similarities between the often solitary journeys of creative work and healing from grief.