I Was Married to a Horse, and Other Tales of an Accidental Anthropologist

How does the youngest of eight children, raised on a family farm in northern Wisconsin by parents with only half a grammar school education, become an Ivy League professor and a witness to some of the most transformative events of the late twentieth and early twenty-first centuries? In this remarkable memoir, John Borneman tells the story of his life as an "accidental anthropologist" with searing honesty, humor, and emotional depth.

Tracing a path from his upbringing as a queer farm boy to a career in anthropology, Borneman's memoir reflects on social mobility, the decline of the American family farm, and shifting understandings of queerness and masculinity. Meanwhile, as a fourth-generation German American, his journey carried him to divided Berlin, where he captures the moods of East and West, and back again during the arrival of Syrian refugees--culminating in a long-standing friendship and a poignant reunion with a refugee he had first met years earlier.

Through these encounters, Borneman shows how empathy and attention can reveal the hidden textures of history, identity, and belonging. Rich in insight and humanity, this is a story of personal discovery, intercultural encounter, and the search for meaning in a rapidly changing world--one that speaks to scholars and general readers alike.