如果阻礙你過得更好的,並不是環境、過去或身邊的人,而是你還不夠了解自己呢?網路人氣心理治療師 Kier Gaines 認為,反覆告訴自己「一切都會變好」,或用過度正向的話語鼓勵自己,並不能真正解決生活中的問題。改變的起點,是更誠實、更深入地認識自己。在本書中,Gaines 從職涯停滯、家庭關係、尋找伴侶等常見困境出發,引導讀者察覺未曾注意的內在傷痕與無意識情緒反應,重新檢視真正想要的生活。他也提供具體方法,幫助讀者建立有實際依據的自我肯定,減少負面自我對話,並理解看似安穩的舒適圈為何可能讓人停滯不前。What if the biggest obstacle to happiness isn't your environment, your past, or other people—but a blindness to some uncomfortable truths about yourself?In the book his fans have been waiting for, one of the internet’s most beloved therapists, Kier Gaines, sets the record straight: mantras and toxic positivity won’t solve your problems. Instead, Gaines offers a bold new path to getting what you want in life: You need to know yourself better. A lot better than you do now.In It All Starts When You Do, Gaines walks you through the hard but rewarding work you need to do when you simply can’t figure out what feels off in your life. Whether your career is stuck in neutral, your family is driving you crazy, or you’re struggling to find love, yo